All posts filed under: Self Development

– Moving Past the Pain

. For a long time, I was scared of being hurt. So I did every thing I could to avoid it . I avoided getting too close to people. I avoided taking risks. I was playing it safe. Though I quickly realized that, in fact, I was not playing. I was not living. And that was hurting me way more than all the break ups and falls I had suffered from in the past . I learnt that pain is inevitable. And strangely enough, pain is what made me feel more alive. When I acknowledged my pain, it made me a better writer, a better painter. A better person, too. I could relate and connect with people more easily . Life is a magical experience, through which we learn so much. Getting hurt is part of it. But what matters is how we respond to the pain that life throws at us. Do we want to let it turn our heart into ice, or do we want to turn it into art? . I chose …

– Loyal to your Heart

Never compromise on the truth of your soul and always be loyal to your heart in letting what you love be what you do. Even if it freaks you out. The things that scare us the most are definitely the things that could make us the happiest . What would you do if you were not scared? Who would you be if you were not scared? Are you ready to be more loyal to your heart? Are you ready to let go of fear and create all that will bring you joy? . __ You can also follow me on @suryya_holistic and @suryyaholistic __ On the Side: Janis Joplin – Piece of My Heart

– I feel it Coming

Change is scary We think it is easier to hold on Hold on tight We think we can avoid it But It usually comes unannounced and like a tornado, can destroy everything All the certainties All the expectations It can destroy everything Everything but you . Change is unavoidable You may lose everything you’ve ever known Everything but yourself . You can choose to let go Accept to press the reset button Plant a new seed, and just watch it grow . One day at a time __ You can also follow me on @suryya_holistic and @suryyaholistic __ On the Side : Otis Redding – A change is Gonna Come

– Shine your Light

Do not be afraid of shining. Shine as bright as you can and on the way, you will become a catalyst for change. The candles that you light will then go on to help others shine in their own way . Embrace your singularities. Speak your unique voice. Express your own truth . Give yourself permission to shine and most importantly, allow others to shine with you. You will never take anyone’s power, nor will you lose any of yours . The room is always in need of light.   __ You can also follow me on @suryya_holistic and @suryyaholistic __   On the Side : Jennifer Warnes – Let the Sunshine In  

– Living in the Moment

I often struggled to understand how to live in the moment . My heart was always thinking about the past. Rewinding the tape over and over again. Dwelling on what could have been. Regretting . My head was always dreaming about the future. Imagining every possible scenario. Doubting before even trying. Freaking out. . Many headaches, many more heartbreaks. Until I changed my outlook on life . Instead of looking behind and blaming myself for my mistakes, I accepted them as powerful lessons. Instead of thinking forward and over planning my whole existence, I simply trusted that things would fall into place when they were meant to . Most importantly, I started to appreciate the present. To express gratitude for all the little things that would make me smile on a daily basis. For all the things that would make me uncomfortable, too. Every day is full of magic and of beautiful lessons, if only we remember to open our eyes and heart. . Yesterday is gone, tomorrow might never show up. Really, all we …

– When All is Dark

  Sometimes our life is like a house of cards. In one second, pouf, everything can fall apart. When that happens, we can easily reach a very dark place. . When all the pillars, the walls, the roofs we have worked so hard to build collapse and crash to the ground, we are only left with ruins. Nothing makes sense anymore, everything is destroyed. There’s nothing left but chaos. . I find chaos quite poetic. When nothing is certain, everything is possible. We can write our story all over again. We can reinvent ourselves. We can rebuild our life. Brick by brick. This time, with a stronger foundation. . When all is dark, when all seems chaotic and lost, go deep into your heart; you will always find that faint light that will guide you home… One day at the time __ You can also follow me on @suryya_holistic and @suryyaholistic __   On the Side: LP – Tightrope

– Hello Darkness My Old Friend

  ” Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light “ . . It is ok to have a bad day. To feel lost on your path. To feel like you’re moving backwards. It is ok to just forget the world for a day or two. It is ok to put on the saddest song, lie on the bathroom floor, and cry. Cry because you thought you knew where you were going… and you are not so sure anymore. Cry because you feel lonely on your journey. It is ok to have one of those days, or two or maybe three. We’re only human. . What matters is to remember that we are not lost. We are not lonely. We are not moving backwards. Every single step is pushing us towards the right direction, even if we don’t always see it straight away. Every single person in our life, by their presence or absence, is bringing us closer to ourselves. When we feel loved …

– HELLO NEW MOON | July 13

  I usually start feeling the effects of a new/full moon at least three days before they kick in. This time is no exception. . The July New Moon in Cancer promises to be powerful – I know it seems that this is the case for all the moons lately, but.. – as it marks the beginning of a great eclipse session. Despite the emotional turmoil, it has our best interests at heart; It invites transformation into our lives and pushes us to (FINALLY!) embrace our own power. . So what to do if, like me, you strongly feel the Moon energies? My answer : DO nothing. Retreat into your shell. Take this time to dive deep into yourself. Deeper than ever before. Take a pilgrimage to your heart and soul. Look within yourself. Confront your fears; look at the them in the eyes and smile. Stand still. Feel yourself breathe . Allow your emotions to take their rightful place. Release everything that does not belong in your life anymore. Cry, if you need to. …

– Enough

-The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself Steve Maraboli   ‘’Why can’t you be like all the girls your age?’’ he asked. ‘’Look at your cousin, she is doing normal stuff. Why can’t you be like her?’’ I was 13. My newly found passion for ballroom dancing didn’t please my father. He had a hard time understanding why I enjoyed spending all of my Saturday afternoons dancing with people who could be my grandparents. Sometimes, I wondered whether I was making certain choices simply to piss him off. At least, that’s what he thought. Maybe he was right. I don’t know. Our relationship has always been complicated. I have always been quite different from the people my age, and that bothered him. He has never missed an opportunity to remind me. I never felt like I was enough. Never good enough. Never funny enough. Never pretty enough. Despite my numerous attempts to please him, and be the perfect daughter, it was never enough. But we did a great job …

– Re-aligning with Nature and the Self

-Nature is not a place to visit. It is home. Gary Snyder   When I was a kid, I used to spend a lot of time helping my grand-mother in her immense garden; planting seeds, watering flowers, picking up mushrooms. I would also feed the ducks and the hens, gather the laid eggs in the morning, and pretend to clean the barn. In her garden, there was an oak tree. I was often the only kid at her house, so I would sit down in the garden and spend hours talking to that tree, imagining it was a human being. For a long time, that tree was my best friend. Growing up, I lost touch with nature and I did not even enjoy leaving my busy city to spend time in the countryside. I could feel that something was missing in my life, but I never really took the time to connect the dots. I recently had the chance to take part in a Bio-empathy course, i.e. 4 days away from the chaotic city I …